Posted by: silverliningsblog | February 1, 2019

Overcoming loneliness by finding your tribe

It happens to most of us at some point, especially after a break-up or the loss of someone dear…we look around, notice the empty space, hear the pounding silence…and suddenly feel alone.

And not the good kind of alone (the kind where you love having your freedom and time to yourself). But the ugly kind of alone…the kind where you wish you weren’t.

Nobody likes to talk about it, but we all know the feeling…that aching longing in our heart for someone to talk to. To spend time with. To laugh with. To hug and snuggle up on the couch with. To share experiences and day-to-day life with.

Someone who cares how your day went. Someone to be silly with and laugh until your face turns red. Someone to cry with and feel supported by. Someone to hang and chill with. Someone to step outside your comfort zone with and go on adventures. Someone to share meals and interesting conversation with. Someone to call spontaneously because you have great news to share, or just because you just need to talk.

And not just someone…but someone special. Someone who gets you, who likes you, who appreciates you, who enjoys your company…and you equally dig them.

While few people like to admit it, we all feel lonely sometimes…it’s part of the human experience. These feelings are normal, and are a reflection of our human need for connection with others. It doesn’t mean there is something wrong with us…it just means we’re needing more healthy human contact.

The loneliness “epidemic”

In recent years, media around the world have described loneliness as an “epidemic.” Recent studies suggest that loneliness is on the rise, with rates of loneliness doubling in the U.S. in the past 50 years.

According to Cigna’s U.S. Loneliness Index (May 2018), almost half of the 20,000 respondents reported feeling alone, left out, and isolated. One in four Americans shared that they rarely feel understood, and only about 18 percent of participants believe that there are people they can communicate with.

So if you’ve been feeling alone, you’re not alone.

Loneliness in and of itself isn’t a problem…it’s a normal human emotion that is usually temporary and will pass. But when loneliness becomes a chronic state, that’s when both mental and physical health problems arise.

Loneliness has been linked to an increased risk of:

  • depression
  • anxiety
  • irritability
  • suicide
  • heart attack
  • stroke
  • dementia

A recent CBC article says that:

“Chronic loneliness is as harmful to your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. Loneliness is even more damaging to your body than obesity and diabetes, and has been linked to high blood pressure, dementia and premature death.”

But don’t hit the panic button if you’re feeling lonely…loneliness is simply an indicator that something needs to change for you. What’s important is to do something about it so that it doesn’t become a chronic condition that negatively impacts your health.

Causes of loneliness

It seems ironic that loneliness is on the rise, since digitally, we are more connected than ever before.

So what’s causing this trend?

Here’s what some of the most recent studies suggest:

  • social isolation (when a person has a restricted social network and limited social contact – e.g. a senior living in a nursing home, a student living away from home, a single mom living alone, an entrepreneur working alone, someone who recently moved to a new city)
  • poor social skills
  • working too much (which results in less time to spend doing social activities)
  • more people living alone (according to Statistics Canada, 28 per cent of households had only one person living in them in 2016)*
  • the rise of social media (which may mean that people spend less time socializing in person)**  

*It’s important to note that living alone does not necessarily lead to loneliness. Many single people are happy living alone, especially those with well-developed social networks. And we all know you can live with people and still feel lonely. The issue appears to be more with people who don’t want to be living alone.

**It’s interesting to note that the Cigna Loneliness Index found that social media use was not a significant factor in loneliness. However, other studies show that the more time a person spends on social media (more than two hours/day), the more likely he/she will feel socially isolated. Conversely, those who logged on for half an hour a day felt less lonely. Which makes sense…social media can be a great tool for connecting with others and feeling less isolated, when used in moderation. But if you’re spending hours a day on your phone, you are likely avoiding socializing in person. So balance is key!

I’d also like to suggest a few other causes not discussed in studies…

First, there is spiritual loneliness. Spiritual loneliness generally means feeling disconnected from source energy (by whatever name you choose to call it…God, Allah, Great Spirit, the Universe, Source, etc.). It’s like floating on a boat at sea, with no port to return to. Or running on a battery with no power source to plug into to recharge.

Related to this is a disconnection from ourselves…not being comfortable in our own skin and enjoying our own company. It’s caused by focusing on our human failings, and forgetting our spiritual nature (that part of us that is powerful and can rise above anything).

And finally, there’s the Ugly Duckling phenomenon. As the short version of the story goes, the Ugly Duckling is rejected and taunted by his peers (ducks and geese), because he looks very different from them (and therefore “ugly”). Later on in the story, he discovers that the reason he didn’t fit in was because he was actually a swan, and had been trying to fit in where he didn’t belong.

I know I’ve experienced the Ugly Duckling phenomenon in my life, and often felt I didn’t fit in. And the truth was that I didn’t belong where I was…I wasn’t with my tribe of people. So if you are also feeling like you don’t really fit in, it’s very important to find your tribe of swans…that group of people who accepts you as you are and makes you feel “normal.”

It’s also important to know, accept, and be who you truly are…others can’t accept you if you don’t accept you. Be authentically you wherever you are, so that your tribe can find you.

Solutions for overcoming loneliness

Ultimately, loneliness results from a need for more and better-quality human connection that is not being met (and I’d argue spiritual connection as well). So the ultimate solution involves finding suitable people to spend time with, as well as ways to connect spiritually.

I’d like to note here that a mistake I see many single people making to “cure” their loneliness is to rush out to find a partner, and settle for anyone who looks their way.

Romantic love is only one form of love…there are many others. You’ll be far better off in the end if you take some time on your own to get to know yourself better, and develop a high-quality social circle in order to feel connected, rather than fling yourself in the arms of the wrong person.

Once you’re feeling connected with some good-quality relationships, you’ll be able to take your time finding a romantic partner, and will be less likely to make a mistake because you’re rushing to fill a void.

Some ways to reduce loneliness include:

  • connecting with co-workers at work
  • finding a community to be part of (school, church, volunteer, activist, social, online)
  • joining social groups and attending events
  • using social media in moderation to connect with others (not just aimlessly browsing)
  • finding a way to connect spiritually (church, synagogue, temple, meditation, prayer, nature)
  • developing a healthy relationship with yourself (treating yourself like your own best friend)
  • creating enough balance in your life (between work, friends and family, romantic partner, time for yourself, time to rest and recharge)

How to find your tribe

So how do you “find your tribe” if you’re wanting to find new and more like-minded people to interact with?

  1. Community groups/events – One way is to look around your city/town for community groups and activities that resonate with you and join. Look at posters on bulletin boards, community newspapers, or ask around.

  2. Volunteer organizations Find an organization looking for volunteers and join. It’s a great way to meet new people, feel connected, and also feel a greater sense of purpose through giving back!

  3. MeetUp MeetUp is another great way of finding people with similar interests – it’s an online tool that lets you search for groups of people in your area who share a common interest in a certain type of activity. Once you join a few MeetUp groups that interest you, you will be notified of events and can attend to meet people.

  4. Facebook communities Facebook groups are another way of finding friends around the world. You can join a local Facebook group, or a global group to find people with common interests to interact with online (these interactions can lead to friendships in real life too).

  5. Create your own! And finally, if you can’t find a group you like, create one like I did! 🙂

Join us!

If you are a single woman who is looking for a warm, welcoming community, I invite you to join the two I have created (both are free):

Final thoughts…

If you’ve been feeling lonely, I’d like to leave you with these final thoughts:

  • Loneliness is normal. And it’s treatable. 🙂
  • If it’s only once in a while, just sit with your feelings, acknowledge them, and allow them to pass. Then do something you love to shift your focus.
  • If you feel lonely a lot, reach out and find others to spend time with. You don’t have to be alone if you don’t want to be!
  • Finally, show interest in others…you’d be surprised how many people feel just as lonely as you!

You are an amazing person and deserve to be surrounded by people who understand and support you. So keep looking until you find your tribe of swans!

Share your thoughts!

What do you do to overcome loneliness?

Resources for further learning


Karen Strang Allen is an empowerment coach for single women and mother of two. She is the author of Free to be me: Create a life you love from the inside out! and international bestselling co-author of Unwavering Strength Volume 2. Widowed at 22 and separated at 35, Karen’s mission is to help single women feel great and create a life they love, so they easily attract their dream partner. Check out Karen’s free workshops and inspirational resources at

Posted by: silverliningsblog | December 31, 2018

5 steps to jump-start your year!

woman-690118_1280The beginning of a new year is a natural time to reflect on our lives…to ask ourselves if things are going the way we want them to, and if not, to decide what to do about it.

I truly believe life is meant to be joyful, and when it’s not, it’s a sign that something needs to change.

So if last year was a rough one for you, I encourage you to consciously choose to make this year different. To raise your standards for your love life, your health, your career, your home life. To decide to feel better, and to take the actions you’ve been putting off that you know will move you forward.

Here are 5 steps you can take to help you get going on the right foot and make this a great year.

1.   Reflect

Start by setting some time aside (at least an hour or two) to think about how last year went, and how your life is going in general.

Ask yourself how happy you are in each of these areas of your life, on a scale of 1-10 (where 1 = miserable to 10 = completely happy):

  • Health & wellbeing
  • Career & contribution
  • Finances
  • Home & family life
  • Relationships (friends, co-workers, relatives, spouse, society)
  • Leisure & social time (what you do for fun & relaxation)
  • Personal growth & spirituality

2.   Release

In each area of your life, ask yourself if there is something you can let go of to make space for more of what you want instead.

Here are some examples in each category:

  • Health & wellbeing – let go of the habit of eating after 7 pm
  • Career & contribution – delegate work you don’t enjoy to someone else
  • Finances – look for ways to reduce bills/spending
  • Home & family life – purge your home and give away unwanted items
  • Relationships – end toxic relationships
  • Leisure & social time – reduce TV/cell phone/Internet use
  • Personal growth & spirituality – write down worries and burn them to release them to the Universe

3.   Give thanks

Again in each area, make note of what has been going well…of what you are grateful for. Gratitude is one of the highest vibrational energies there is, and what you focus on expands, so the more grateful you feel, the more good things you will attract to you.

Some examples might include:

  • Health & wellbeing – I am grateful I can walk and run!
  • Career & contribution – I appreciate the people I get to work with.
  • Finances – I am grateful for my home, and for heat and electricity.
  • Home & family life – I am grateful for my children’s laughter.
  • Relationships – I appreciate my fun friends.
  • Leisure & social time – I am grateful my city has so many cool events.
  • Personal growth & spirituality – I am grateful I am learning to set better boundaries.

4.   Create new goals

Now that you’re in touch with what you don’t want (#2) and what you already love (#3), it’s time to set goals to help you move the needle upwards on your happiness level (#1) in each of the areas in your life.

I’d suggest setting one goal for each category. Something that is big enough that it substantially increases your happiness, but small enough that you believe it’s achievable. Be sure to include why you want to achieve the goal (i.e. how you want to feel).

For example:

  • Health & wellbeing – I will exercise 3 times each week, so I feel fit and healthy.
  • Career & contribution – I will actively look for a new job, so I find work that is meaningful.
  • Finances – I will save $100 / month in an RRSP, so I can have a carefree retirement.
  • Home & family life – I will repaint the house, so my home feels like an oasis.
  • Relationships – I will plan a weekend retreat with my girlfriends, so I can rest and relax.
  • Leisure & social time – I will take salsa dancing lessons, so I feel passionate and alive.
  • Personal growth & spirituality – I will meditate for 15 minutes each day, so I feel connected to the Universe.

For more support in how to set goals, please see: GREAT goals: How to get what you want this year.

5.   Take inspired action!

It’s not enough to set goals…we have to actually take action to achieve them!

So choose one of your goals, and decide on an action you can take this week (ideally today) to move towards it. You don’t have to accomplish the entire goal…you just need to take that first step.

Once you’ve done that, take another step. Then another. This is how goals are achieved…with focused attention, and regular action.

Wishing you an amazing year, filled with love, joy and abundance!

Share your thoughts!

What are your favourite ways of starting off the new year?

Resources for further learning

If you need help with goal setting this year, reach out!

Or check out my free online masterclass, Your Most Awesome Year Ever! on January 3!


IMG_1956a_5x7Karen Strang Allen is an empowerment coach for single women and mother of two. She is the author of Free to be me: Create a life you love from the inside out! and international bestselling co-author of Unwavering Strength Volume 2. Widowed at 22 and separated at 35, Karen’s mission is to help single women turn their heartbreak into a breakthrough, feel great, and create a life they love, so they attract their dream partner. Learn more about Karen and check out her free empowering resources and dating workshops at

Posted by: silverliningsblog | December 2, 2018

The gifts of sensitivity

butterfly-1127666_1280Have you ever been told you’re “too sensitive?”

The statement implies there is something wrong with you, when the reality is, you’re only “too” much…for them.

So ultimately, that means that they are less sensitive than you. And that you are more sensitive than them. And is that really such a bad thing?

Defining sensitivity

Being “sensitive” means your nervous system is finely tuned, and you are more easily aroused than most others. Everyone feels best when they are neither too bored nor too aroused. For the sensitive person, this range of “feeling ok” is simply more narrow, meaning you can tolerate less stimulation than others can.

Discovering the downside of sensitivity

If you are a sensitive person, chances are you’re already well aware of the downside of sensitivity…everything from food allergies and skin conditions to sensitivity to noise and criticism.

Some examples from my life you may be able to relate to:

  • I was the child in our family who felt what everyone else was feeling…and would have emotional meltdowns when it became too much.
  • I was the kid in school who was bullied and struggled with self-esteem because I was “too soft” and “geeky” and thought the unkind things others said about me must be true.
  • I was the partner who my ex-husband dubbed “Goldilocks” because I didn’t like things too cold or too hot, too bright or too dark, too loud or too quiet.
  • I was (and am) the friend who needs to eat a gluten-free, dairy-free, caffeine-free diet, because my body is sensitive to many foods.
  • I’ve never liked librairies, antique shops, or second-hand stores, because I can feel other people’s energy on the objects (and when I don’t know the source, that makes me uneasy).
  • I am very uncomfortable in crowds, and can’t stand the feeling of being trapped.
  • I hate itchy materials, like wool and clothing tags.
  • I get overwhelmed by too much noise or stimulation.
  • I can’t watch horror movies, news, or violent anything.

For most of my life, my sensitivity seemed like a curse. No one seemed to appreciate it, least of all me. It seemed to set me apart, to make me different, when all I wanted was to fit in. To be “normal.”

In more recent years, I’ve come to accept and even embrace that I’m not “normal,” certainly when it comes to sensitivity. As Elaine Aron defines it in The Highly Sensitive Person, I am definitely highly sensitive. And as Judith Orloff describes in The Empath’s Survival Guide, I am also very much an empath (someone who feels other people’s feelings and energy).

If you suspect you may be sensitive and/or empathic, you may want to check out these quizzes:

It may help you understand your quirks and realize that you are, indeed, different (and that it’s ok to be!).

Appreciating the upside of sensitivity

Thankfully, there are many benefits to being a sensitive person, both for ourselves and for others:

  • We’re the “canary in the mine” who notices when things are wrong/off long before anyone else does. (We are wired with stronger survival instincts.)
  • We are better at spotting (and correcting) errors.
  • We can sense people’s moods and energy, which allows us to assess what is going on (and whether we want to stay in any given environment).
  • Our bodies tell us sooner than most people’s when something we’re doing or eating isn’t right for us.
  • We’re more sensitive to other people’s feelings and needs, making us better friends, parents, and partners.
  • We’re more conscientious and take more time to reflect on issues impacting others.
  • We’re typically more compassionate, caring, and giving than most.
  • We’re very intuitive.
  • We’re more attuned to nature, energy, beauty, music, the arts.
  • People come to us for advice, help and support.
  • We tend to be the thinkers, advisors, teachers, healers, and spiritual leaders of our society.

How to manage your sensitivity

If you are sensitive, it’s important to listen to what your body is telling you. You will need to live and do things differently than others, and that’s ok.

Some ways you can manage your sensitivity so that it works for you (and not against you):

  • Balance time spent with people with time alone.
  • Get lots of sleep and take rest breaks.
  • Meditate regularly.
  • Eat lots of vegetables, and avoid processed foods / common allergens.
  • Exercise regularly (walking and yoga are particularly beneficial).
  • Ground and shield your energy daily.
  • Clear your energy field every day (some ways to do this include smudging, using chimes, and using water).
  • Take baths / shower to reset your energy (especially after an encounter with a difficult person).
  • Swim or sit by water (water produces negative ions, which balances you).
  • Get out in nature daily.
  • Avoid negative people / complainers / energy vampires.
  • Practice setting boundaries and saying no (“no” is a complete sentence!).
  • Journal to process your thoughts and feelings.
  • Find high-vibrational / supportive friends.
  • Use essential oils to balance your energy.
  • Use crystals to protect your energy (especially amethyst and black obsidian).
  • Use salt lamps (especially near electronics).
  • Take regular days off, and a retreat at least once/year.

Honour your sensitivity

If you’re a sensitive person, honour who you are and the amazing abilities you have. Instead of focusing on your frustrations (or the frustrations of others), focus on your unique gifts and the many ways these gifts enhance your life and the lives of others.

You are definitely not “normal”…you are very, very special and gifted! Embrace it!

Big hugs from one highly sensitive person to another. 🙂

Share your thoughts!

I’d love to hear from you…please share your ideas and insights below.

Resources for further learning


IMG_1956a_5x7Karen Strang Allen is an empowerment coach for single women and mother of two. She is the author of Free to be me: Create a life you love from the inside out! and international bestselling co-author of Unwavering Strength Volume 2. Widowed at 22 and separated at 35, Karen’s mission is to help single women feel great, turn their heartbreak into a breakthrough, and create a life they love, so they easily attract their dream partner. Check out Karen’s free resources and workshops at

Posted by: silverliningsblog | November 1, 2018

Motivating yourself…when you just don’t feel like it

MotivationWhen you’re feeling down, it can be hard to want to do anything. Everything just feels like too…much…effort.

I understand this feeling very well. I’ve suffered from both adrenal burnout and depression in the past, so I’ve had periods when I’ve wanted to lie in bed all day and do nothing. When bending over to pick something up off the floor felt too hard. And exercise? No way I had the energy for that.

A lot of the work I do with my clients is helping them to get in touch with their emotions…to listen to their bodies and validate how they’re feeling (e.g. if you feel tired, rest). But there are times when it’s not useful to simply “do what you’re feeling” – like when you’re in the lower vibrational energies of sadness, despair, powerlessness, and depression. Because what you’re likely feeling like doing is watching Netflix and eating an entire cake…and that’s not ultimately going to make you feel better.

When you’re feeling really down, it’s important to know how to motivate yourself to do something different so you can shift out of your current (non-resourceful) state. It’s a myth that you’re going to wake up one day and you’ll suddenly feel motivated to do what you already know you need to do. We’re wired to do what’s easy and familiar, so we all have a natural resistance to doing anything that feels uncomfortable or hard. Which is how we get stuck.

As Mel Robbins says in her powerful interview on motivation, you don’t have to feel good or ready in order to change. You just have to decide to do it, one tiny step at a time. And it’s only once you begin to take those steps and climb the vibrational ladder that you’ll begin to feel better and your desire to pursue your goals will kick back in.

So let’s take that first step…

Taking control of your state

It is normal to experience feelings of sadness and despair in response to adverse life events (e.g. death, job loss, major life changes). In most cases, these sad feelings resolve as you come to terms with the changes. It makes sense at these times to listen to your body, slow your pace down, process your emotions, nurture yourself, and give yourself time to heal.

But sometimes these feelings linger, and turn into excessive sadness, loss of interest in enjoyable things, and low motivation. And it starts negatively impacting your life. That’s when you know a different tactic is needed…it’s no longer useful to simply “listen to your body” and “do what you feel.”

Instead, you want to take steps to consciously change your state (instead of accepting that you have to feel this way). And this will often involve doing things you DON’T initially feel like doing (i.e. taking action opposite to how you feel).

3 ways to change your state

Once you’ve taken some time to observe, process, and validate your feelings, you’re ready to begin shifting out of a non-resourceful state back into a state where you feel motivated to create change.

The three ways to change your state are by changing your:

  1. thoughts (mind)
  2. physical state (body)
  3. emotional state (spirit)

Changing your thoughts (mind)

Some ways to change your thoughts about the situation include:

  • Journal to process your thoughts and feelings so you can let them go.
  • Ask yourself empowering questions to challenge the thoughts that are making you feel sad.
  • Remind yourself of times you’ve gotten through situations like this.
  • Decide how you’d like to feel instead. (e.g. “I want to feel happy and joyful.”)
  • Journal about all the good things in your life/day that you’re grateful

Changing your physical state (body)

Ways to change your physical state include:

  • Get out of bed and have a hot shower. Dress up in your favourite outfit.
  • Stand/sit upright, in a confident position. Pull your shoulders down away from your ears.
  • Release endorphins and move the negative energy out of your body by exercising.
  • Go for a walk outside in nature (better yet, go with a friend).
  • Do an enjoyable activity (e.g. get a massage, do a craft, play an instrument, have a bubble bath, walk in nature, watch a comedy).

Changing your emotional state (spirit)

And finally, ways to change your emotional state include:

  • Listen to upbeat, uplifting music. (Better yet, sing or dance!)
  • Watch inspirational videos, like these TED talks on motivation.
  • Use energizing essential oils.
  • Spend time with loving, supportive people.
  • Reach out for support (call a supportive friend, mental health professional or crisis line).

Just do it!

Nike had it right all along…it really is about “just doing it.”

There will naturally be times in your life when you just don’t feel motivated, or when you feel afraid. In fact, that may be most of the time. But you can take control of your state and consciously shift it by doing what will help you to feel better…whether you “feel like it” or not.

Keep putting one foot in front of the other, and just take the next step. Soon, you’ll realize you’re moving in the right direction, away from fear and pain and towards the life you want to create.

Good luck…sending you a big virtual hug and lots of positive energy!

Share your thoughts!

I’d love to hear from you…please share your ideas and insights below.

Resources for further learning


IMG_1956a_5x7Karen Strang Allen is an empowerment coach for single women and mother of two. She is the author of Free to be me: Create a life you love from the inside out! and international bestselling co-author of Unwavering Strength Volume 2. Widowed at 22 and separated at 35, Karen’s mission is to help single women feel great, turn their heartbreak into a breakthrough, and create a life they love, so they become a magnet for their dream partner. Learn more about Karen and check out her free empowering resources and workshops at

Posted by: silverliningsblog | October 1, 2018

How one simple word can change your life

thanksgiving-2903166_1280As a coach, I often work with clients who are going through difficult times in their lives. Whether it’s a break-up or divorce, a sudden career change, or a full-on mid-life crisis, change often doesn’t seem like a good thing. At least at first.

But I’ve come to trust in the mysterious ways of the Universe, both personally and professionally. I know that there are blessings in every challenge, and that life is often steering us in a direction we can’t yet see.

I also know that, even when life is at its most difficult, and it feels like we’re going to break into a million pieces, there are still good things to be grateful for.

And it’s this ability to say “thanks,” even when times are tough, that will shift your energy higher and help you begin to attract more good things.

How gratitude changed my life

When I was 22, my husband and soulmate Blair passed away from liver cancer, less than 3 months after his diagnosis and 6 weeks after our wedding. I was devastated – I had lost the amazing man I was planning on spending my life with.

The same year, I moved to Ottawa to pursue a Masters in Journalism, 3,500 kilometres from my home and everyone I knew. I slid into a deep depression, and seriously considered dropping out of school. I had no energy, no motivation, and just wanted to stay in bed all day.

I called a former university professor, and told him of my struggles. He recommended that I “look for the silver lining in every day.” So I started a gratitude journal, and before I went to bed each night, I wrote down three things that were good about that day and my life overall.

At first it was hard to find three things to be grateful for. But gradually, it got easier and easier. I even started to see the many wonderful things I had in my life that I had been taking for granted:

  • heat and lighting
  • clean water
  • food to fill my belly
  • a safe place to live, in a safe country
  • a beautiful city
  • friends who cared about me
  • a scholarship that allowed me to pursue a higher education

And slowly but surely, my depression began to lift. I started enjoying life more, and spending more time doing things I loved. I met new friends, and got a great job. My life really turned around in just over a year, and I credit doing gratitude journaling (and some great counselling) as the main reason why.

Why gratitude helps (hint: it’s all about focus)

When times are tough, it’s so very easy to focus on what is going wrong. The problem is, when we focus on the negatives, we feel bad, our mood and energy drops, and our energetic vibration plummets. We feel like crap, and so we continue to attract crappy people and situations to us. We get stuck in a vicious loop.

But if instead, we can shift our focus to what is already good in our lives, and feel grateful for those people/things, we’ll feel our mood lifting. Our energy will start to rise, which will motivate us to take action, and help us to attract better people and situations into our lives.

Looking at it from another angle…don’t we all love it when someone shows us appreciation? Doesn’t it make us want to do MORE to help? Similarly, when you say thanks to the people who ARE there for you (instead of focusing on the ones who aren’t), it makes them feel good, and causes them to want to continue to support you.

Energy goes where our attention flows, and what we focus on expands.

So if you want things to change for the better, focus on what’s good in your life. Show appreciation to the people who love you and tell them you how much you value them. And as your mood lifts, watch the world around you begin to shift.

Wishing you a joyful and love-filled Thanksgiving holiday.

Share your thoughts!

I’d love to hear from you…please share your ideas and insights below.

Resources for further learning


IMG_1956a_5x7Karen Strang Allen is an empowerment coach for single women and mother of two. She is the author of Free to be me: Create a life you love from the inside out! and international bestselling co-author of Unwavering Strength Volume 2. Widowed at 22 and separated at 35, Karen’s mission is to help single women feel great, turn their heartbreak into a breakthrough, and create a life they love, so they become a magnet for their dream partner. Learn more about Karen and check out her free empowering resources and dating workshops at

Posted by: silverliningsblog | September 3, 2018

The energy of desire: Manifesting what you want into your life

Manifest desiresSo you’ve decided you want to manifest (attract) something into your life. Maybe it’s something big, like a life partner, a new home, or a new job. Or perhaps it’s something small, like a gorgeous new dress.

The interesting thing to note is that—whether it’s big or small—the process for attracting what you want into your life is the same.

And even more important than the process you follow is the energy behind your desire.

The energy that manifests desires

You see, most people get this ass-backwards. They think that the more they WANT something (the more desire they have for it) the faster it will come. WRONG.

In fact, the energy of wanting will push away your desire. “Wanting” is an energy of lack…it’s based on noticing that you don’t already have the thing your heart desires. It’s kind of like the energy of a child who is begging at the store, “Mommy, can I PLEASE have this toy? I NEED it!”

The truth is, you don’t really NEED anything to make you happy (once your basic human needs for food, water, clothing and shelter have been met). You may believe that having certain things in your life will make you happier, but the truth is you can choose to be happy now, exactly where you are, exactly the way things are. And that energy of happiness is what will draw what you desire to you.

Splash padLet me tell you a story to help illustrate this more clearly. I once went to a splash pad with my children. At the splash pad was a beautiful little black girl with multi-coloured bows in her hair. She looked to be about three years old. She was standing beside a pole that had three buckets on top. The buckets would intermittently fill up, then dump water one at a time. So the little girl tried to guess which bucket was going to dump next, and stood underneath it. She closed her eyes and squealed in delight, “It’s coming, it’s coming, it’s coming!!!” while her mother watched with a smile.

The fascinating thing to me is that even when she picked the wrong bucket, she didn’t get discouraged. She simply stood there patiently waiting, knowing her bucket would eventually fill and tip on top of her. And she continued to squeal “It’s coming!!!” the whole time, until eventually it did.

I think this is a great analogy for the energy we need to embody in order to attract what we want into our life. To attract something you desire, get into an energy of excitement and anticipation, like this little girl. Imagine what it will be like to have it before you even do, and feel grateful and excited for it as if it’s already here. This gets you into the vibration of abundance, which is the energy from which all new things are created.

5 steps to align your energy with what you want

To break this process down further into manageable steps, here is how to manifest something you desire into your life:

1. Get clear about what you want – Decide what it is you would like to create (manifest) in your life. If you’re not sure what you want, check out my energetic goal-setting process.

2. Focus your attention on what you want – This step is where most people go wrong. Don’t focus on the ABSENCE of what you want, or on how crappy your life is without it. Instead, focus on the PRESENCE of what you want. Start by noticing positive examples around you of people getting what you want, and examples in your life of you getting what you want. (e.g. When dating, don’t focus on the “bad fish.” Instead, focus on the examples of awesome guys you know, and happy couples around you. This is proof that what you want is possible.)

3. Visualize it happening – Imagine what you desire happening, as if it’s happening now (e.g. having an awesome partner in your life, going on adventures and travelling together). Use your five senses, and imagine what it will look, feel, smell, sound, and taste like. Focus on your feelings of joy and gratitude.

4. Relax and be patient – Release the “need” to have what you desire now. Trust that it will come to you in the perfect way and timing. Don’t insist it come in a particular form (e.g. it must be your ex Ted) or at a particular time (e.g. I must get married this year!). Instead, release your desire to the Universe, asking for “This or something better, in the perfect timing for me.” Stay in the energy of “It’s coming!!!”

5. Be happy now – Enjoy your life as it is right now (don’t wish it away waiting for something else). The best way to manifest your desires faster is to get into the same energetic frequency as the things you want to attract. If you are feeling miserable, you will push what you want away. Do things that make you feel happy (doesn’t matter if it’s unrelated to your desire), so that your vibration rises to one of joy, love and gratitude.

Be patient and positive

To sum it all up, having success with attracting what you desire requires:

  1. Being clear about what you want.
  2. Focusing your attention and envisioning only what you WANT.
  3. Having a positive attitude (about yourself, your life, getting what you want).
  4. Being patient and trusting what you desire will happen.
  5. Enjoying your life now (instead of postponing your happiness).

It takes practice, but once you get the hang of it, creating the life you want and manifesting your desires is a lot of fun!

If you need help with this, or with attracting your soulmate, reach out!

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IMG_1956a_5x7Karen Strang Allen is an empowerment coach for single women and mother of two. She is the author of Free to be me: Create a life you love from the inside out! and international bestselling co-author of Unwavering Strength Volume 2. Widowed at 22 and separated at 35, Karen’s mission is to help single women feel great, turn their heartbreak into a breakthrough, and create a life they love, so they become a magnet for their dream partner. Learn more about Karen and check out her free empowering resources and dating workshops at

Posted by: silverliningsblog | June 29, 2018

How to make online dating easier

Online dating - womanIn speaking with many single clients, I’ve found that the vast majority do not enjoy online dating. This anecdotal feedback seems supported by a December 2016 Consumer Reports survey, which found that people were generally not happy with ANY online dating service out there (free or paid).

Certainly, it can be very time-consuming when you’re bombarded by messages from creeps, disheartening when you’re looking through countless uninspiring profiles, and frustrating when the one person you’re interested in doesn’t message you back.

That said, online dating IS a convenient way of meeting a wide variety of people you wouldn’t ordinarily meet from the comfort of your own home, at a relatively low cost (when compared to the expense of attending live dating events or meeting in restaurants).

So is there a way to make online dating easier? Can a person actually learn to enjoy it?

Top 10 tips to avoid wasting time online

There are definitely ways to make online dating easier. I’ve found that most people blindly begin without even thinking about which site is best given their relationship goals and demographics. They just use whatever their friends are using (whether their goals are the same or not).

Furthermore, most people set up a profile as quickly as possible without putting a lot of thought into it, and then wonder whey they’re attracting the wrong people. Or (on the other end of the spectrum) they spend too much time online dating, and wonder why it feels like the joy has been sucked out of their life.

Here are my top tips for being efficient and making the most of your time when online dating:

1. Choose one or two dating sites/apps to focus on – Being on too many sites scatters your focus and requires too much time to manage. Choose the site that has the best demographics for you and best serves your goals. (For example, if you’re over 40 and looking for a long-term relationship, Tinder or Bumble would not be the best choice as they are more commonly used by people under 30 for hook-ups and casual relationships.)

2. Choose a paid site – I recommend paid sites over free ones as they typically include at least some screening, so there are fewer weirdos to weed through and the “quality” of people is generally better (there will still be strange people anywhere though, or people with different goals than you). Paid sites also usually have enhanced privacy options and more features, and no (or fewer) annoying ads.

3. Create a great profile – Spend time learning how to create a great profile, and getting friends to review it to ensure it shows you in your best light in a creative (but honest) way. Think about it from your ideal partner’s perspective – what are they looking for, and what makes you a great catch? Don’t be too heavy – humour is almost always appreciated.

4. Use invisible/private mode – Most paid sites have an “invisible” or “private” mode, allowing you to keep your profile hidden, browse through other profiles, and only make yours visible once you find someone you’re interested in. This helps prevent being inundated with unwanted attention from creeps/scammers.

5. Set aside 30 min/day or one evening/week – Don’t spend your entire life online dating! A romantic relationship is only one aspect of your life. Be sure you’re maintaining balance and continuing to do activities you enjoy with people you love. Set aside a specific amount of time each week to dedicate to your search – and then the rest of the time, enjoy your life as a single person (you won’t be single forever)!

6. Ignore messages if you’re not interested – If someone messages you and you’re really not interested, just ignore the message. It becomes too time-consuming to respond to everyone, and it’s kinder to not waste someone’s time if you’re not digging them. However, if you’ve been communicating with someone or have gone on a date, then it’s common courtesy to respond and “let them down easy” if you’re no longer interested, rather than to ignore (ghost) them.

7. Report creeps and scammers – Don’t buy into early promises of love, or send people money or naked pictures. If someone sends you something inappropriate or asks for money, please report them to the dating site/app you’re using to spare others from going through the same thing! You can also report scammers to the Canadian Anti-Fraud Centre.

8. Message people who catch your eye – If someone catches your eye, send them a brief message telling them what you liked about their profile, or asking a question. Then let them respond – if they don’t, they’re either not interested or have perhaps found someone already.

9. Talk on the phone to learn more – If you’ve messaged back and forth a few times and decided you like someone, ask to speak on the phone (you can learn a lot about someone by the tone of their voice and how they hold a conversation). If the person avoids this, NEXT!

10. Meet in real life if it feels like a match – Within 1-2 weeks of meeting someone you’re really interested in online, meet in real life. Remember: You don’t really know who they are and can’t really assess how much you like them until you’ve met them! Ensure you meet in a public place, and drive yourself there (don’t accept being picked up at home until you know them better). If they don’t ask you to meet in person within a couple weeks, suggest it. If they avoid meeting in real life, move on to someone who thinks you’re worth their time!

Be patient and positive

Having success with online dating requires three things:

  1. Being clear about what you want.
  2. Having a positive attitude (about yourself, the opposite sex, dating in general).
  3. Being patient enough to wait for what you truly want (i.e. not settling).

No matter which dating site and strategy you use, there will be oddballs out there you have to weed through. There are good and bad “fish” in every pond, so don’t take it personally if you get a creepy message or picture, or if someone doesn’t message you back (only 1/3 of messages on online dating sites are responded to). You don’t need to like every fish, or have every fish like you – you just need to find one! It’s about quality, not quantity.

My #1 tip for making online dating easier is to have a good attitude going in. Be sure you only start dating once you’re already feeling good about yourself, your life, and your chances of finding a good match. If you’re not feeling good about these things, you will not attract good dates! It just doesn’t work that way. Do your inner work first, then date from a place of power and happiness – your results will be much, much better.

If you need help with this, or with creating your online dating profile, email me!

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Which site do you prefer? Please share your ideas and comments about online dating below.

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IMG_1956a_5x7Karen Strang Allen is an empowerment coach for single women and mother of two. She is the author of Free to be me: Create a life you love from the inside out! and international bestselling co-author of Unwavering Strength Volume 2. Widowed at 22 and separated at 35, Karen’s mission is to help single women feel great, turn their heartbreak into a breakthrough, and create a life they love, so they become a magnet for their dream partner. Learn more about Karen and check out her free empowering resources at


Posted by: silverliningsblog | May 30, 2018

It’s not a disease! The benefits of being single

Single WomanIf you’ve ever been single, you’ve no doubt felt pressure from others around you to “find someone.” You probably dread the question, “Why are you still single?”

It’s as if people think being in a relationship is the miracle cure for solving all your problems. Or that being single is like having leprosy – some horrible disease that proves you’re undesirable (if you weren’t, wouldn’t you have someone by now?).

And yet, the latest research is showing that being single has some important benefits.

So why is it assumed that being in a relationship is better than being single? And is this assumption actually true?

The over-idealization of marriage

We live in a culture that reveres romantic relationships and marriage. There are many reasons for this:

  • We are social creatures who generally prefer togetherness over isolation.
  • We want to procreate (which ensures the continuance of our species).
  • We want security (someone to care/provide for us when we’re ill).
  • We want financial stability (two incomes, sharing expenses and lodging).
  • We want a family (the nuclear family is still assumed to be the best model for this).

While there are certainly benefits to being in a romantic relationship, our over-idealization of this one type of relationship often comes at the expense of other types…including our relationship with ourselves.

By putting so much focus and energy into our partner, we often neglect other people in our lives. I’ve seen it time and time again with clients and friends (and yes, I’ve done it too) that as soon as we’re in a relationship, we drop our friends and family like hot rocks, focusing all our attention on our partner to the exclusion of others. I don’t believe this is a good thing, as it is very unbalanced and suggests that the only relationship really worth having is a romantic one.

It also puts far too much pressure on our romantic relationship to fulfill all our needs – which is unrealistic at best. And what happens if that romantic relationship doesn’t work out? Because you’ve put all your eggs in one basket, if that basket is suddenly withdrawn, guess what…you have no eggs left.

Also, many people hyperfocus on their romantic relationship to the detriment of themselves. They put aside their own interests, passions, dreams to please the other, gradually sacrificing too much and losing themselves in the process.

And, let’s not forget that our romantic relationships don’t always result in happiness. Sometimes they are riddled with conflict, disappointment, and pain. Indeed, as many of us have come to discover, being miserable in the wrong relationship is far worse than being alone.

So while, yes, there are benefits to romantic relationships, there are also drawbacks, and it’s important to see both in balance to make an educated choice about what is best for you.

What I mean by this isn’t that everyone should break up and become single…it’s that we need a greater appreciation of the benefits of being single, so that as a culture we stop rushing people who are single into relationships, as if there is something fundamentally wrong with being alone.

The value of being single

I’ve spent more years living alone than I ever intended (over 10 years at this point). I always imagined I would get married straight out of university, buy a home together, create a family, and live happily ever after. I didn’t anticipate becoming widowed at 22, or divorced at 35.

After my first husband died from liver cancer, I resisted being single. I was urged by my parents and friends to find someone to fill the gap, and rushed into a relationship too quickly. It did not end well, because filling the empty hole in your heart with another person’s love is not the real answer to loneliness.

Then I remarried, and while I married a good man, it was not the kind of partner/relationship I needed. So after 10 years of trying to make two mismatched puzzle pieces fit, my marriage ended. And this time, I decided to take some time to be single, and re-discover who I was again.

My single years weren’t always easy, but they have been a true blessing. I’ve learned more about myself and my preferences than I ever would have being in a relationship (because I used to be one of those gals who sacrificed who she was to be with someone).

I learned to be ok with being alone – and not only ok, to actually look forward to my alone time (when my two kids are with my ex). I learned to meet my own needs, so that I’m not so “needy” in my relationships. I re-invested in other important relationships…with friends, colleagues, family. I re-discovered my passions, and spent more time doing things I loved to do that made me feel alive and truly happy. I changed careers and created a business where I’m helping people change their lives. And I fell in love with myself, truly enjoying my own company and coming to appreciate the many gifts I have to offer others, finally trusting in my own value.

I am now with a terrific guy, but I can honestly say I’m glad I didn’t meet him sooner – because my life is so much better balanced now, and the gift of loving myself is far greater than any external love could ever be.

For those who think being single is a curse, here are some benefits of being single you may have overlooked:

  • Doing what you want, when you want.
  • Decorating your home the way you like, without having to compromise.
  • Organizing your space the way you like (and having stuff stay put!).
  • Getting a better sleep (no more snoring!).
  • Having more time for
    • other important relationships
    • your own interests and passions
    • exercise and eating healthy
    • personal development
    • going within and hearing your own thoughts

More and more people are choosing to be single

I am certainly not alone in seeing the benefits of being single. There are more and more people who are living alone these days…and even consciously choosing to be single. There is a ton of emerging research that shows that marriage isn’t the be-all and end-all…and that many people are happier alone. I follow a lot of Bella DePaulo’s research, check out this article for a new perspective on the reality of single vs. married life.

To summarize a few interesting statistics from her article:

  • 45% of the adult population in the US over 18 is single (i.e. not married).
  • For the first time ever, more Canadians are living in one-person households than any other living arrangement.
  • Over the last 50 years, individualistic beliefs (like valuing friends more than family) have increased significantly for 79 percent of the world’s nations.
  • Recent studies show that marriage does not improve self-esteem or health, as previously thought. In fact, single people were reported to have better health than married people.

Living alone is not only more common these days, it’s often even a preference. More and more people (women especially) are choosing to have relationships, but live apart. Gone are the days when a woman wants to be a maid to her partner, and many women are financially independent, so they can choose to keep their own home instead of moving in together.

I personally know quite a few single people who are HAPPY being single. It’s a choice, not a requirement to be in a relationship, and it has nothing to do with how “desirable” you are. In fact, some of the highest calibre women and men are single the longest, because (rightly so) they have higher standards and are not willing to lower them just to be with someone.

It’s really about choosing what’s right for you

All this to say, it’s YOUR CHOICE whether you want to be single or be with someone, living together or living apart.

So, when someone suggests you SHOULD be with someone, trust that they likely mean well (being in a relationship is their view of what would make you happy, probably because they are in one). But understand that their view is a little one-sided. Ultimately it’s for YOU to decide how to live your life. Living your life based on someone else’s values and not your own will never result in happiness.

If you do want to find someone and get married, that’s great…but there is no rush and no ticking clock. In fact, being in a rush will result in one of two things:

  1. Choosing poorly (settling for “someone,” instead of choosing the right person).
  2. Pushing away good people because they feel your urgency/anxiety.

So, take your time and enjoy this period of being single…it’s not a disease or a curse! It’s actually a tremendous opportunity to discover who you are, create a life you love, and become truly happy.

Then, if you do decide to enter into a relationship, you’ll be doing it as a whole, healthy person and set your relationship up for success from the start. And if you don’t, you’ll have a well-rounded life that fulfills you, so you win either way!

Share your thoughts!

Please share your ideas and comments about being single below!

Resources for further learning


Karen Strang Allen is an empowerment coach for single women and mother of two. She is the author of Free to be me: Create a life you love from the inside out! and international bestselling co-author of Unwavering Strength Volume 2. Widowed at 22 and separated at 35, Karen’s mission is to help single women feel great, turn their heartbreak into a breakthrough, and create a life they love, so they become a magnet for their dream partner. Learn more about Karen and check out her free empowering resources at


Posted by: silverliningsblog | March 2, 2018

3 keys to finding the love you want

Lasting loveWe all want to be loved, nurtured, cared for, cherished. We want to be heard, understood and treated well. We yearn to find that special someone to share life’s adventures with.

These are natural desires…human beings are wired for connection. Our survival instinct is to belong. Our reproductive instinct is to find someone to mate with. Our spiritual instinct is to join in harmony with others.

So why does love sometimes seem so elusive?

Problem #1: Looking for love in all the wrong places

Part of the challenge is that we’re looking for love outside of ourselves, instead of inside. We’re insisting that others give to us what we won’t give to ourselves.

For example, we really want someone to listen to us, but we rarely listen to our own body’s messages (that it’s tired, needs rest, needs exercise, needs healthy food, etc.). Or we want someone to validate us, but we ignore and fail to validate our own feelings (e.g. we overlook those “red flags” we felt when we first met someone). Or we wish that our partner would say nice things to us, but inside our head we criticize ourselves relentlessly.

We have a psychological tendency to look to our partners to meet the needs that were unmet in childhood. But it’s important to learn how to meet most of those needs on our own and create a life we truly love. That way we take the pressure off our relationship (and partner) to be our “everything.”

It’s ok to want people in our lives to show us love. But the very first place we need to find love is within ourselves. And the neat thing is, once we change how we feel on the inside and express more of that to others, the outside world will reflect that back to us and we will receive more love. But it begins with loving ourselves, so that we’re approaching our love relationships from a place of generosity, not a place of lack.

When you really, truly love who you are and the life you’re living, you’ll attract better relationships.

Problem #2: Choosing the wrong person

The other mistake I see my clients making is that they choose the wrong person, and then try to make them into who they want them to be.

In other words, they pick someone who has very different values than they do, or flaws they can’t live with, and then expect them to change. It’s very common for women to pick “fixer-uppers” with major issues and think that, with their love, the person will improve. But that rarely works without therapy.

Instead, it’s best to be clear about what you want in a partner and in a relationship, and then choose a person who is capable of that and has a similar vision.

Problem #3: Not having the right skills

Few of us were taught by our parents how to have a healthy, happy relationship. And most of us did not learn relationship skills in school. As a result, any skills we’ve learned were through trial…and a few too many errors.

But for a relationship to thrive, there are many critical skills we must develop. For example:

  • how to communicate our feelings, thoughts and desires openly
  • how to say things in a way that won’t elicit a negative response
  • how to listen deeply to our partner
  • how to navigate differences
  • how to resolve conflicts

Learning these skills and applying them make all the difference between having a relationship that is joyful and lasts, versus going through many failed relationships.

The 3 keys to finding (and keeping) love

So to summarize, if what you’re wanting is to find lasting love, the keys are to:

  1. Love yourself and create a life you love
  2. Choose the right partner for you
  3. Learn the skills required to have a healthy, happy relationship

If you would like to learn more about how to find lasting love, I invite you to join me in Ottawa on May 5−6, 2018 for the Soulmate Attraction Summit!

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Please share your challenges, successes, tips and comments about finding love below!

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Karen Strang AllenKaren Strang Allen is an empowerment coach for single women and mother of two. She is the author of Free to be me: Create a life you love from the inside out! and international bestselling co-author of Unwavering Strength Volume 2. Widowed at 22 and separated at 35, Karen’s mission is to help single women feel great, turn their heartbreak into a breakthrough, and create a life they love, so they become a magnet for their dream partner. Learn more about Karen and check out her free empowering resources at

Posted by: silverliningsblog | February 2, 2018

What to do when life gets you down…

Sad woman 1Let’s face it…life ain’t always easy. It sometimes throws us a curve ball like a lost job or a friend who passes away. Obstacles suddenly appear on our path to our goals. We get taken down by the flu. We get a bad case of the winter blues.

No one escapes having challenges in life…but some people definitely seem to handle them better. So when life gets you down, what are some concrete actions you can take to feel better and turn things around?

Action #1: Take care of your body

When we are under stress, no matter what the cause, the most important first step is to nurture ourselves and take good care of our body. It will be much harder to stick-handle any problems and see the solutions if we get sick (or more sick), or succumb to depression and anxiety.

Some ways to care for ourselves include:

  • Get 8 hours sleep (you may need even more if you’re ill)
  • Exercise regularly (walking outside and doing yoga are very helpful when under stress)
  • Eat lots of fruits and vegetables (and limit refined carbs and sugar)
  • Take vitamin D and/or use a sun lamp (important in Northern climates during the winter)
  • Do something relaxing (take a bath, get a massage, meditate)

Action #2: Ask for help

It’s also critical to reach out for support. Many of us have a tendency to hide when we’re struggling, but this just increases our sense of isolation and separation. Instead, share your struggles with someone you trust, whose advice you value (e.g. friend, family member, coach or therapist).

Sometimes talking it out can be enough. Other times, you may need to make a specific request for help. Here are some ideas for things you might ask for:

  • Can you come over and spend time with me?
  • Would you be able to watch the kids for me?
  • Can you help me organize my paperwork?
  • Would you mind picking up some groceries for me when you go get yours?
  • Could you take me to see the doctor?

Action #3: Shift your focus

Once your basic physical and emotional needs are met, it’s time to shift your focus. Dwelling on what’s not working in your life will only attract more of what you don’t want. Instead, use your challenges as an opportunity to ask empowering questions like, “What do I want instead?”

Another great way to shift focus is to do gratitude journaling. Every night (or once a day at a time that’s convenient for you), write down what you’re grateful for about your life, yourself, and the people around you. No matter how difficult things may seem, there are always aspects of your life that are still good, and ways in which the Universe and others are supporting you. The more you pay attention to the good things you already have, the more will come to you. (And the faster your challenges will turn around!)

Action #4: Do things you enjoy

When we’re struggling, we tend to not only withdraw, but also to stop doing the things we love most. And yet, the best way to raise our energetic vibration (and mood) is to do things that make us feel joyful and alive.

So, make a list of things you love to do, and then pick something each day to lift your spirits. A few good ideas include:

  • listening to uplifting music
  • getting outside in nature
  • going to the spa
  • spending time with friends
  • buying yourself flowers

Tip #5: Don’t take things personally

When things go wrong, we often take it personally and beat ourselves up for it. But this habit is very disempowering, and keeps us from being able to see the best course of action.

In The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz advises to take nothing that happens personally, because what others do or say is never really about you; it’s about their own experience and perspective.

So when life throws you a curve ball, instead of replaying what happened over and over in your head, ask yourself “Who do I want to be in this situation?” Consider how you can remain true to your values and what advice your best self would give you, then decide what to do next.

Share your thoughts!

What are you struggling with? What helps you to feel better? Please share your tips/comments below!

Resources for further learning

If your self-esteem feels a little shaky lately, I invite you to attend my free upcoming online masterclass: Fall Madly in Love with You!

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