Posted by: silverliningsblog | December 30, 2014

GREAT goals – Give thanks for what you already have

“Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.”
—Charles Dickens


If you focus on how far you have to go, it can seem like you’re never getting anywhere.

Note: This is Part 2 in a 7-part series called GREAT goals: How to get what you want this year!

We human beings have a biological tendency to focus on the negative (it’s what kept us from getting eaten by tigers way back when). Unfortunately, this tendency obscures our view of how much is already working in our favour.

For example, when we set goals, we tend to look at the distance between what we want and what we already have…what Dan Sullivan and Jack Canfield call “the gap”. This gap makes us feel like a failure, like we’re not getting anywhere, when really we’ve come quite far.

The solution is to stop focusing on the distance between our dreams and our current reality, and instead look at the distance we’ve already travelled between where we were to where we are now (i.e. how far we’ve come).

Gratitude is the most powerful way to shift out of a feeling of “I don’t have what I want” into a feeling of “I already have a lot…I can do, be, and have anything!”

So at the beginning of each year, or anytime you are creating new goals, start by giving thanks for what has already gone well:

  • I am so grateful for the many wonderful people in my life!

    I am so grateful for the many wonderful people in my life!

    favourite memories with friends and family

  • fun events or trips
  • relaxing time spent in nature
  • your favourite people
  • improvements in your physical, mental, or spiritual wellbeing
  • career successes
  • abundance that flowed into your life
  • things you bought that you always wanted
  • ways that you gave to others / contributed to society
  • all the goals you accomplished this year

Pause and feel blessed for each of the wonderful things that have come into your life. Look at how much you’ve done and experienced already! Give yourself credit for how far you’ve come and how terrific you already are.

This will help you to:

  • realize how much good has happened, which focuses your mind on the positive and helps you create even more good things (what we focus on, expands)
  • give yourself credit for how much you have accomplished, which helps quiet all that negative self-talk and gives you the confidence to continue to do even more in other areas
  • realize that while everything takes time, you can accomplish a lot in a year, and every step gets you closer to your dreams
Favourite Memories Jar

My “gratitude jar,” where I recorded happy memories from 2013.

To help me remember what happened during the past year, I like to review my list of goals for the previous year, and look at my calendar and photos. I also review my “I Rock” list, where I write down my accomplishments and proudest moments from the year, as well as any positive messages I receive from friends and clients.

Some other ideas for establishing a gratitude habit include:

  • journaling at the end of each day what you are grateful for
  • taking a photo every day of something you are grateful for
  • writing favourite moments on sticky notes and collecting them in a “gratitude jar” that you review at the end of each year

It’s amazing how awesome it feels to look back and see how far you’ve come and how many wonderful things have happened. This gets you feeling good about yourself and your life, and lines you up with the vibration of success, which makes it far, far easier to create more success.

If you really want to set yourself up for success this year, you can start thinking now about what you want to be grateful for one year from now, and say thanks in advance!

In my next post, we’ll look at how to review challenges through a positive lens. 🙂

P.S. In the meantime, please share your thoughts below on what you are most grateful for!

Karen Strang Allen

Karen Strang Allen is an empowerment coach for single women and mother of two. She is also the author of Free to be me: Create a life you love from the inside out! and international bestselling co-author of Unwavering Strength Volume 2. Widowed at 22 and separated at 35, Karen’s mission is to help single women feel great about themselves, turn their heartbreak into the best thing that ever happened to them, and create a life they love, so they become a magnet for their dream partner. Learn more about Karen and check out her free empowering resources at



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