Posted by: silverliningsblog | September 3, 2018

The energy of desire: Manifesting what you want into your life

Manifest desiresSo you’ve decided you want to manifest (attract) something into your life. Maybe it’s something big, like a life partner, a new home, or a new job. Or perhaps it’s something small, like a gorgeous new dress.

The interesting thing to note is that—whether it’s big or small—the process for attracting what you want into your life is the same.

And even more important than the process you follow is the energy behind your desire.

The energy that manifests desires

You see, most people get this ass-backwards. They think that the more they WANT something (the more desire they have for it) the faster it will come. WRONG.

In fact, the energy of wanting will push away your desire. “Wanting” is an energy of lack…it’s based on noticing that you don’t already have the thing your heart desires. It’s kind of like the energy of a child who is begging at the store, “Mommy, can I PLEASE have this toy? I NEED it!”

The truth is, you don’t really NEED anything to make you happy (once your basic human needs for food, water, clothing and shelter have been met). You may believe that having certain things in your life will make you happier, but the truth is you can choose to be happy now, exactly where you are, exactly the way things are. And that energy of happiness is what will draw what you desire to you.

Splash padLet me tell you a story to help illustrate this more clearly. I once went to a splash pad with my children. At the splash pad was a beautiful little black girl with multi-coloured bows in her hair. She looked to be about three years old. She was standing beside a pole that had three buckets on top. The buckets would intermittently fill up, then dump water one at a time. So the little girl tried to guess which bucket was going to dump next, and stood underneath it. She closed her eyes and squealed in delight, “It’s coming, it’s coming, it’s coming!!!” while her mother watched with a smile.

The fascinating thing to me is that even when she picked the wrong bucket, she didn’t get discouraged. She simply stood there patiently waiting, knowing her bucket would eventually fill and tip on top of her. And she continued to squeal “It’s coming!!!” the whole time, until eventually it did.

I think this is a great analogy for the energy we need to embody in order to attract what we want into our life. To attract something you desire, get into an energy of excitement and anticipation, like this little girl. Imagine what it will be like to have it before you even do, and feel grateful and excited for it as if it’s already here. This gets you into the vibration of abundance, which is the energy from which all new things are created.

5 steps to align your energy with what you want

To break this process down further into manageable steps, here is how to manifest something you desire into your life:

1. Get clear about what you want – Decide what it is you would like to create (manifest) in your life. If you’re not sure what you want, check out my energetic goal-setting process.

2. Focus your attention on what you want – This step is where most people go wrong. Don’t focus on the ABSENCE of what you want, or on how crappy your life is without it. Instead, focus on the PRESENCE of what you want. Start by noticing positive examples around you of people getting what you want, and examples in your life of you getting what you want. (e.g. When dating, don’t focus on the “bad fish.” Instead, focus on the examples of awesome guys you know, and happy couples around you. This is proof that what you want is possible.)

3. Visualize it happening – Imagine what you desire happening, as if it’s happening now (e.g. having an awesome partner in your life, going on adventures and travelling together). Use your five senses, and imagine what it will look, feel, smell, sound, and taste like. Focus on your feelings of joy and gratitude.

4. Relax and be patient – Release the “need” to have what you desire now. Trust that it will come to you in the perfect way and timing. Don’t insist it come in a particular form (e.g. it must be your ex Ted) or at a particular time (e.g. I must get married this year!). Instead, release your desire to the Universe, asking for “This or something better, in the perfect timing for me.” Stay in the energy of “It’s coming!!!”

5. Be happy now – Enjoy your life as it is right now (don’t wish it away waiting for something else). The best way to manifest your desires faster is to get into the same energetic frequency as the things you want to attract. If you are feeling miserable, you will push what you want away. Do things that make you feel happy (doesn’t matter if it’s unrelated to your desire), so that your vibration rises to one of joy, love and gratitude.

Be patient and positive

To sum it all up, having success with attracting what you desire requires:

  1. Being clear about what you want.
  2. Focusing your attention and envisioning only what you WANT.
  3. Having a positive attitude (about yourself, your life, getting what you want).
  4. Being patient and trusting what you desire will happen.
  5. Enjoying your life now (instead of postponing your happiness).

It takes practice, but once you get the hang of it, creating the life you want and manifesting your desires is a lot of fun!

If you need help with this, or with attracting your soulmate, reach out!

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Resources for further learning


IMG_1956a_5x7Karen Strang Allen is an empowerment coach for single women and mother of two. She is the author of Free to be me: Create a life you love from the inside out! and international bestselling co-author of Unwavering Strength Volume 2. Widowed at 22 and separated at 35, Karen’s mission is to help single women feel great, turn their heartbreak into a breakthrough, and create a life they love, so they become a magnet for their dream partner. Learn more about Karen and check out her free empowering resources and dating workshops at

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