Posted by: silverliningsblog | December 28, 2021

Out with the old, in with the new

I love the energy of a new year, as it’s a fresh opportunity to hit the restart button and get things moving in the direction we want.

It also allows us to take stock of how our life is going, get rid of things that are unwanted, and bring in the things we desire.

Releasing what we don’t want

If we never release the things we don’t want, we accumulate too much unwanted energy, which makes it impossible for new and better things to find their way to us.

Imagine continually adding new clothes to your closet, without ever getting rid of the socks that don’t match, the underwear with holes, and the clothes that no longer fit. Your space would get so full you wouldn’t be able to find anything, let alone hang up your new clothes!

So the first step in creating the life you want is to release what you don’t want.

To do this, ask yourself these questions:

  • What did I not like about the past year?
  • What emotions do I want to release?
  • What relationships no longer serve me?
  • What objects do I have too much of that I can give to others?
  • What is taking up too much physical, emotional or energetic space?

Once you’ve identified what you don’t need or want, set aside some time to begin purging and make room for what you do want.

Enjoying the space in between

Often, the second we clear space in our lives, we look to refill it. Before doing this, give yourself permission to simply hang out in the stillness and calm and quiet created by having more space.

Breathe deeply, meditate, and notice what comes up for you. It may be inspiration for something new you want, or it may be a realization that you need less than you thought you did to be happy. Sometimes, when we sit in the space we used to call “emptiness,” we discover a “oneness” and peace we’ve never experienced before.

Calling in what we do want

Once you’re clear on what you no longer need and want and have taken some time to enjoy the space in between, it’s time to get clear on what you want instead.

To help you identify what you want to bring into your life, ask yourself these questions:

  • Who do I want to become this year?
  • What new activities do I want to do?
  • What new things do I want to have?
  • What would make my life better, in each of these areas:
    • Health & wellbeing
    • Spirituality & personal development
    • Home & family life
    • Friends & leisure time
    • Romantic relationships
    • Career & contribution
    • Finances

Once you’ve identified what you most want for yourself in the coming year, spend some time consciously calling it in by writing about it, creating a vision board, or visualizing it happening. The more time you spend doing this, the faster it will manifest.

Then sit back, relax, and trust it will come to you when it’s meant to, acting on any inspiration you feel in the meantime.

Good luck! Wishing you all the joy, love and laughter you can attract this year.

❤ Karen


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About the author

Karen Strang Allen is a love and empowerment coach for single women. She is the author of Free to be me: Create a life you love from the inside out! and international bestselling co-author of Unwavering Strength Volume 2. Widowed at 22 and separated at 35, Karen’s mission is to help single women feel great about who they are and create a life they love so they attract their dream partner. Check out Karen’s free inspirational resources and workshops at

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